Secrets for happy relationship... (For guys)

1. NEVER STOP COURTING. NEVER STOP DATING.
NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

 

2. PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART.
Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

 

3. FALL IN LOVE OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN.
You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

 

4. ALWAYS SEE THE BEST IN HER.
Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife

 

5. IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER.
Your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

 

6. TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY.
Take full accountability for your own emotions. It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

 

7. NEVER BLAME HER IF YOU GET ANGRY.
NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them: when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

 

8. ALLOW YOUR WOMAN TO JUST BE.
When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you: DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

 

9. BE SILLY.
Don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

 

10. FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY:
Learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

 

11. BE PRESENT
Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

 

12. DON’T BE AN IDIOT.
Don’t be an idiot and don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

 

13. BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY.
To carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

 

14. GIVE HER SPACE.
The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing:. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

 

15. BE VULNERABLE.
You don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

 

16. BE FULLY TRANSPARENT.
If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING: Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don’t know i she will like what she finds… Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK: If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

 

17. NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER.
The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

 

18. DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY.
Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

 

19. FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY.
Forgive immediately and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

 

20. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE.
In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

God’s Silence

God’s Silence

When we see all the misdeed that is dominating the Global scenario, in the recent years, we start to question our intuition. A simple yet thoughtful question hover in our mind, why God is silent, why he is not doing anything to restore our faith on the holiness, divineness and humanity. Why he is not doing anything when thousand or rather million innocent life are being slaughter in his name. Is He enjoying? Do he wants us to suffer all this pain? Is He blind or rather forced himself not to see our suffering.

The answer to all these question seem to be found nowhere but if we dig out little from our past, history will tell a clear cut perspective. Every time God tried to help human-being to realise his true purpose and humanity, the plan seems to backfire the holiness.

Whenever he sent a messenger or a prophet or avatar, human being mess with holy intension of the almighty. God send Jesus to teach us the listen of love and what we human perceive, made an entire different religion, and stared discriminating based on it. Church domination and suppression of other minorities clearly ruled over an era. The witch-hunt and forced conversation are some of the misdeed that prevail the church dominated century.

Again God (Allah) sent Prophet Mohammad spread the lesson of compassion and humanity. But again we separated us from the holy path. We made another religion not on his teachings but on aggression and extremism, we degraded the beauty of Islam and the teaching of beloved and Great Prophet.

He even send Gautama Buddha, Krishna and other avatars but all we did is fight a war in their name. We discriminate, we made caste, and we made groups, just to fulfil our devilish requirement of barbarian urges. We want to see blood, that’s is in our core, and we can’t deny it.

Every avatar, prophet and messenger of the Almighty want us to be in the path of humanity. It doesn’t matter which name you use for God (Allah, Krishna, Shiva, Buddha…etc.), but all he needs is love. The divine energy consists of love and humanity, which God want to spread across the globe.

God’s silence and he will be silent till the day we not understand what he truly wants. He wants us to love, he want us to be human first and arose humanity in our heart. And will be the day God will break his Silence…………

Good Men and The Devil

(Answer for all the Sufferings of human beings)

It’s kind of very interesting that a good and spiritual man suffers a lot in contrast a jerk climb the social ladder like it just meant for him. As a day passes these sociopaths reach a milestone one after another in there career or professional life with indulging in antisocial activities as well as unethical and immoral deeds, ignoring the voice of their conscience.

Why it so…….. It happens with everybody, we always thinks its injustice that a worthless person gets the credit for the job which is done by you.

The answer can be dug out though spiritual and religious sphere.

In most of the culture and religion, it is believed that we are in a state of dream, i.e. we are sleeping and bound in the cycle of life, like for instance in Hinduism and Buddhism, and our primary aim is to free our soul from this cycle and surrender to the almighty.

Another philosophy which derives from the roots of Christianity and Islam, suggest a holy land, which would be our ultimate home for our soul. The Bible refer it as a “Heaven”. The holy Koran refer it as “Jannat”.

So it we presume that a “Good” man who is kind from heart, humble and is far away from Evil is supposed to get a place in the Holy Land “Heaven” or “Jannat” and would free his soul from the cycle of life after his death.

But wait for a moment, this is not the whole story, there is another power which hold you back, which want you to continue this life cycle endlessly.

We can name it anything, for instance “The Devil” “Satan” etc. But this negative energy is the one who keep holding us back.

It help out the Evil man and burdens up the Good One. It try to compel the “Good Man” to walk in the wrong and evil path to succeed in life.

It always seems that the evil and wrong path is very easy and promiscuous relatively to the divine path.

But one who takes the wrong turn will no more subject to free his soul from this circle of life in this particular birth.

This hypothetical concept is the answer for the question why one who is deserving and humble by nature not always wins the race. But all these are just virtual and apparent fantasy, and we shouldn’t forget what realism is and our true purpose in life is all about.

If we keep the faith alive and continue our journey on the right path which is divine by its origin, we will definitely succeed in life, may be not in the blink of an initial moment but definitely in the long run and embrace divinity in our-self.

MY Quotes

 

 

Yes I do confess, and apologies that I am possesive, but I hide it very well.
Does possesiveness means love??
Yes ofcouse it does, but only in a limit.

 

I am a type of guy, who don't want new friends, but want the old ones for life.

 

Everyone has experienced something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person they once were.

 

The cold wind blows across your face, making you realise what you are.. The heat of the sun when at its peak, makes u bleed. still sweet are the uses of adversity. the mother nature make you realise what is your worth, much better than those imposters and so called "friends"

 

Failure Is Not A Mistake. Sometimes
It Is The Best Place To Start.

 

u realized that u have grown up when study seems easy and life seems hard.

 

I pity those people who easily trust others 

 

Getting new friends doesn't mean you forget the old ones.

 

i thought i lost u, but deep down under my heart knows its not. Sometimes its important to keep the faith alive, and rest all fixed by the faith and hope. 

 

freedom OF religion and freedom FROM religion. YOU NEED REAL BRAIN TO UNDERSTAND IT, but if you do, GOD bless you 

 

A true friendship/Love : you are in between a dreamy sound sleep, someone calls you but you don't get pissed off, instead you feel the joy of hearing that sweet voice.

 

The human flesh is so weak, we crave and move towards even slightest sign of deceptive love, and lie to the one who was in our worst times......

 

having positive Ego/Self Respect is good, but it should not above your family, true-love, friendship.

 

God is not a magician. God is not a jurge, God is not a fighter, nither a saver.
God is just the GOODNESS within you, the LOVE and SMILE which you share and spread unconditionally.

 

True Love: i will only include you in my best, and in my worst, i will be alone to suffer the pain.

 

People are like season, so change is inevitable. One day they will promise u skies and in the very next moment they will toss you down like a stone.

 

Realising that you are not as strong as you thought you are, Or as detach as you consider yourself is not a sign of weakness, but indeed maturity.

 

 One of the worst feelings in the world is when you are the reason for someone else's pain

 

Whether its business or love, being truthful can take you long way.  

Having a kind and compassionate heart is a blessing from God. Thank him for the gift of empathy. Very few people are blessed with this asset.

 

If we(humans) are refracted image of Almighty. And we are so imperfect. Does that mean even GOD is not so perfect, as may we think HE is.

what is sacred???
Of what is the spirit made???
what is worth living for and what is worth dying for??

 

 Sometimes you get great gift from GOD, trust of a other person, is one such gift, do cheerish it, if people trust you......  

 

freedom OF religion and freedom FROM religion. YOU NEED REAL BRAIN TO UNDERSTAND IT, but if you do, GOD bless you . 

 

A true friendship/Love : you are in between a dreamy sound sleep, someone calls you but you don't get pissed off, instead you feel the joy of hearing that sweet voice.  

 

u realized that u have grown up when study seems easy and life seems hard.

 

The cold wind blows across your face, making you realise what you are.. The heat of the sun when at its peak, makes u bleed. still sweet are the uses of adversity. the mother nature make you realise what is your worth, much better than those imposters and so called "friends"

 

Everyone has experienced something that has changed them in a way that they could never go back to the person they once were.

 

Every religiön have its own demirits.
So its better don't be enslave of any.
And consider your consious as God, to walk in the path of Love and peace

NO MORE SORROW,
NO MORE PAIN.
ITS LIFE,
STILL LOT TO GAIN . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .


Sometimes I regret myself about the wrongs things, that I have done in my Past.
But then I realizes that Today I am "ME" Because of that.

In life, its very important to understand and recorgnise, difference between a friend and an acquaintance.

 U will know nothing of the Possibility, untill you explore the Opportunity.

 

Generally Men grow up in age and become mature, and vice versa take place in the case of fairer sex, with progression of each year, they lose their gray matter

 

UNIVERSAL MOCKERY

UNIVERSAL MOCKERY

Just free Verse
playing with words..

I think its the prefect time to speak.
Just want to spit out, all these Shit.

Damn. :@

what had happend to this World Again,
Turning Good and reasonable peoples into complex insane.

Living under the Guns of Ego,
making your self esteen so low,
Holding you in every aspect,
not letting you to blow.

But Don't go into the deep, its not about any person,
its about "we" in general, who are going into the wrong lane.

Blood are Sheding, and war fought for oil

Toxic and poising are being using to enrich the soil.
Diplomatic association
making you foil.
Forest are been Smacked,
motals are being slashed.
Just in the name of Superiority, eneminity, religion.
Seem like These F**kers lost total vision, and their Rationalization.
Without any valid reason.

But Don't go into the deep, its not about any person,
its about "we" in general, who are going into the wrong lane.

Scams are on its peak.
Girls are being raped,
not a single Man feels safe.
World is at mockery of tears.
Inaudible cry engulf it all. Nobody to call
And No one there to lend us Ears.

But Don't go into the deep, its not about any person,
its about "we" in general, who are going into the wrong lane.

Kids are abused,
child are being spoiled,
the World is messed up in a hell of a political coil.

But Don't go into the deep, its not about any person,
its about "we" in general, who are going into the wrong lane.
Becoming total insane,
no emotions left, can't feel pain.
Had just one motive to have maximum personal gain.
And rest everying gone in Vein

Wake Up India (A Country in vain)

Wake Up India

(A Country in vain)

Why every girl is advised to stay safe, stay at home, don’t wear skinny clothes, maintain modesty etc.?? Why always girls feel the burden of expectation, when it comes to modesty and manners.

MODESTY, DIVINITY, CULTURE, CALMNESS etc. are the possession of every girl. They are in fact the most beautiful creation of the Creator.

But how many Guys have the rationalization of accepting it.

The Fact that India, which is no safer for a girl to be born is clear to the World after the viral incident that took place in Delhi few months ago.

Though we are ashamed of the incident, but nobody is trying to find the root cause behind it

The Prime problem is the mentality and attitude of Indian parents. We generally advice our daughter, sisters and other female members to stay safe instead of delivering the message “Not to Rape” to the male members.

The root causes include lack of morality and ethical education from early childhood.

These virtues can only be enforced if the parents become more frank and easy-going to the children. Ethical virtues should be indulge in a manner, that it arise questions, reasoning power, sense of responsibility, rationality and over all development of the understanding of the morality at the cognitive level.

The evil taboo cannot be uprooted by mere fear of law and order.

Fear can only suppress the urge temporarily. But deep down under they are still present, which is just waiting for a spark to come to the surface.

Therefore to find an effective solution we have indulge virtues which will remain with an individual till his last breath.

The country is in vain and situation can be worse, if we don’t take proper step now. So it’s time to wake up and realize what we need.

Many People consider women should equally blamed and responsible for being raped. For instance wearing revealing clothes, consuming alcohol and getting drunk and other excuses.

All these are nothing but show the immaturity level of our society. Nobody has a right to have sexual intercourse without anyone’s free will, even if she is completely nude.

Therefore only virtue can help the youth to attain that maturity and intellectual level is the enlightenment of the perception. And ability to see the world and enhance ethical behaviour.